Several years ago, somebody sent me a humorous joke about an Amish family, who, for some reason, were visiting a mall.
The father and a son were walking through the mall together, and they were amazed by almost everything they saw. They were especially struck by the two shiny silver walls, which could move apart and then slide back together again.
The boy asked, "What is this, Father?"
The father, never having seen an elevator, responded, "Son, I have never seen anything like this in my life; I don't know what it is."
While the boy and his father were watching with amazement, a little old lady, using a walker, shuffled up to the two silver walls and pressed a button. The walls opened and the lady hobbled between them into a small room.
The walls closed and the boy and his father watched the small, circular numbers above the walls light up sequentially. They continued to watch until it reached the last number and then the numbers began to light in the reverse order.
Finally the walls opened up again and a gorgeous, 24-year-old blonde woman stepped out. The father, not taking his eyes off the young woman, said quietly to his son, "Go get your mother."
I know a lot of young people and singles, who do that with their dates. They find someone they are attracted to. They then project an image on the screens of their minds. The image is of who they wish the young woman or young man to be. Overtly or covertly, they then begin to try to change them--so the date will conform to the image.
I think it best to let dates be themselves. If that is not good enough, they should find someone else to date.